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I imagine a world where

  • Parents, kids, and families are content, connected, happy and thriving.
  • Kids are engaged in their learning while parents and teachers encourage kids to take ownership of their education.
  • Community members are invested in the success and well-being of each other as individuals and as a group.
  • People feel accepted, valued and know that they make a difference.
  • Families (every member of the family) know what it means to love and be loved.
  • Parents value their children as unique human beings and not extensions of themselves.
  • Families work together to support each other and don’t measure their value based on their “stuff”, accomplishments or personal prestige.
  • Parents feel like they are valued, doing a good job, and have what it takes to raise awesome kids.
  • WE are all working together to support one and another.

Whether you are taking an online course, attending a live presentation or working with me as your coach, this is my promise to you

    1. You will develop the confidence, the courage and the skills to parent without yelling, shaming, demeaning, or punishing.

    2. You will not make parenting decisions based on fear, anxiety or judgment, instead you will learn to trust yourself and this will make it possible for you to relax, settle, understand, support, connect, cherish, and make memories with your children.

    3. You will find the sweet-spot between being committed to your kids and maintain your autonomy as a person.

    4. You will lead with love, grace and respect.

If families learn how to live, connect, feel, empower, dream, hope, thrive, accept, understand, support, communicate, and forgive, we will create family environments that breed happiness, love, acceptance, and human connections.

This is my hope.

This is my story

vicki-headshotWhen I found out I was pregnant with my oldest daughter, I was caught up in the momentary bliss of being a new mother and feeling this bundle of new life growing inside my belly. One day it hit me – I was going to SUCK at motherhood. There was no reason for me to believe that giving birth would suddenly turn me into the kind of mother that I so desperately wanted to be. It was more reasonable that I would remain the bossy, decisive, quick-thinking, controlling, and impatient woman I had always been. This terrified me. Thankfully it did not paralyze me. I began searching for something, anything that would offer a framework for becoming the mother my children deserved.

I discovered a psychology that doubled as a parenting philosophy. It resonated with my inner core as it was founded on relationships and belonging. I just knew in my gut that this would be the philosophy that would inspire me to be the parent my child deserved. This philosophy would create systems to keep my attitude in check and do the thinking for me when my emotions were running rampant and quite honestly couldn’t be trusted to fuel rational decision making. It was the best thing I knew so I gave it a shot and I dove in. As my children started to grow and I was involved in the lives of more and more children through a childcare center that I founded, I realized this philosophy worked no matter how old the kids were or what their circumstances were.

Through my own parenting and my childcare center, I was educating parents and influencing families. Kids, parents and families were thriving. One year the events of my life brought me to another coast and I resigned myself to the fact that I would be living on a farm, raising my children, caring for my aging mother-in-law, and keeping to myself, but I had no idea that the magic we experienced as a family would be too great to keep at home. I would be in the grocery store, the doctors office, the park, the school, the playground with my kids and people would come up to me and ask me for my secret. My secret? I would wonder. Yes, your secret. How do you have such a solid relationship with your kids? How come they treat you well? How come you aren’t barking orders or experiencing anxiety or stress? How come the listen to you and well, how come they like you? And how do you seem so relaxed? What gives?

I tried and I tried to give them books – they didn’t want to read the books that I had read, they wanted me to teach them HOW. They wanted me to decipher the psychology and the philosophy and translate what parenting strategies what relationship strategies they could use with their kids in any number of scenarios. They wanted me to teach them how to invest in the relationships they were developing with their children AND raise them to be good, happy, well-meaning, well-adjusted, contributing members of society who looked back on their lives as children with their parents with love and admiration.

And so I began teaching live classes to my community. And with every year and every class my community grew. And now my hope is that my online courses and coaching will inspire you to join our amazing community. A community of parents who believes it is our right as parents to enjoy our families, our time, our lives and it is our children’s right to be offered the best opportunity the best possibility to grow into amazing human beings.

 – Vicki

Professional Highlights

Member of NASAP, North American Society of Adlerian Psychology | Member of ICF, International Coaching Federation | Strategic Partner to the Adler International Learning |  Completed ICASSI training at Wheaton College | Workshop presenter at the Florida Adlerian Society Conference